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Do you want more excitement, joy and happiness in your relationships? Have you experienced heartbreak or a divorce? Are you ready to find love with the right person? For the past 30 years, Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) has been combining her experience as a therapist, with practical science-based advice to help thousands of people, just like you, find and create the loving relationships they deserve.
In this radio program, she's here to share her relationship advice, inspirational stories, and thought-provoking guests with you. Seize the moment to make your relationships be the best they can be.
There's a model for regaining happiness, but it's not where you'd expect. Dr. Terri talks to author Kimberly White. Her new book is called, The Shift: How Seeing People as People Changes Everything. White says that seeing people as people is an idea so simple you'll swear you've heard it a million times, but so profound you'll never stop learning from it. It is the key to healing your most troubled relationships and your deepest personal suffering, and to finding greater peace, meaning, and fullness in your life.
Your role as a parent is critical to your children's health and well-being. Dr. Terri talks to Sandy Fowler, co-founder of DASIUM and co-host of Mighty Parenting Podcast, about raising an emotionally healthy teen. They discuss the 3 core areas that you as a parent need to focus on to build a healthy relationship with your teen. It is vital to raise teens who know they can turn to you when life goes sideways.
Has it been years or even decades since you last dated? Or, have you tried seemingly every avenue to meet that ‘special someone’ and come up ‘empty-hearted’? You are not alone. Dr. Terri talks to Michele Russo, former St. Louis Rams Cheerleader turned author, writer and dating coach. She says that the times have most definitely changed in terms of the dating world. And although dating is meant to be fun, in this age, dating can be described as a game and there are definitely some unspoken rules of modern dating. Michele shares the unspoken rules to modern dating, along with her modern tales of "fairy-fails".
Circle gatherings are an ancient tool used by peoples around the world to heal and strengthen their communities. In recent years, thousands of women around the world have used a practice called Circlework. Dr. Terri talks to Jalaja Bonheim (PhD), who has led circles for over three decades and trained hundreds of Circlework leaders from around the world. She describes the practice and how the principles of Circlework can restore your sense of wholeness, mend broken relationships, lay the foundation for peace and unite us beyond race and religion, culture and politics.
You already know that sports are beneficial for your physical health. But there’s more good news. Studies also show that participation in sports can positively affect your mental health. Dr. Terri talks to Christopher Harris, a licensed professional counselor, about how playing sports creates a foundation of wellness. Football helped him gain confidence and resilience through many life challenges. Today, he integrates professional counseling sessions with fitness and athletics as a means to produce healthy outcomes for youth and young adults in schools and residential treatment facilities.
Volunteering or community service builds healthy communities and teaches people of all ages and backgrounds compassion and understanding. The key is to find something that you're passionate about, and then identify how you can get involved at a community level. Dr. Terri talks to Greg Martin, Executive Director of DRAW (Disaster Relief At Work, Inc). DRAW is dedicated to providing relief to communities around the US that have been hit by natural disasters such as floods, hurricanes, tornadoes, etc. Greg discusses why building a strong relationship with your community is vital and says that volunteering is one of the few ways you can work on you, without having to focus on you.
Stop procrastinating on your love life when you can find love this year! Hiring a matchmaker is the most efficient, proactive way that you can find love in this busy and competitive dating climate. Dr. Terri talks to matchmaker Laurie F. Berzack (M.S.W.), Carolinas Matchmaker, about why you should hire a matchmaker to find love. Laurie is known for her innovative matchmaking and has been bringing couples together for over 12 years. She carefully hand selects matches based on faith, emotional intelligence, personality type, humor, fitness, looks, and intellect, among many other variables.
Recent studies show that "vaping" is on the rise among teenagers, setting off alarm bells among parents. Vaping is the popular term for using electronic cigarettes or vaporizers - devices that heat up small quantities of liquid or oil until they produce an inhalable vapor. Dr. Terri talks with Nancy Kislin, a certified marriage and family therapist, and child and adolescent psychotherapist, about what to do if your child is vaping. For over 28 years, Nancy has been working with children, teens and families. She says it's not a vaping problem, it's a parenting problem.
So many people dream of greatness yet are hamstrung by their own self-doubts. Others face criticism that stops them in their tracks. But there's no reason to accept "you can't" for an answer. Dr. Terri talks with Anni Keffer about how to shake off the negative and stay the course to fulfill your purpose, or why, in life. She is a nationally recognized educator, speaker, author and entrepreneur who is passionate about youth leadership. Her new book is Leadership Built On Why: A Guide for Young Adults.
Are you one of those people who has lots of first dates but not so many second dates? Let’s face it: first dates can be trying! It’s almost like a job interview, both people putting their best face on for the other and hiding their scars. Dr. Terri talks with Hunt Ethridge, a dating and relationship expert with over a decade of experience helping people become the best, most dateable versions of themselves, about how you should behave and what you should reveal on a first date to ensure a second one.
Research shows that parents who maintain a warm connection with their child while also setting high expectations are the most likely to end up with happy, well-adjusted children. Dr. Terri talks with Faith Collins, a parenting coach, public speaker and classroom teacher, about how parents can keep their cool during meltdowns and acts of defiance.
Millennials now make up the largest percentage of the workforce. Their confidence and technological expertise have created extreme conflict between the older and younger generations in the workplace. Dr. Terri talks with father and son team Kelly Riggs and Robby Riggs, co-authors of Counter Mentor Leadership: How to Unlock the Potential of the 4-Generation Workplace, about bridging the divide between Boomers and Millennials in the workplace.
Online dating has lost much of its stigma and a majority of Americans now say online dating is a good way to meet people. Dr. Terri talks with Julie Spira, America's Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker, about the best strategies and the top dating sites to find love in the digital age. Julie is also the author of the bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.
Just like women, men are living longer, and the old model of retirement just doesn't apply. Dr. Terri talks with Dr. Thelma Reese, a retirement and aging expert, about the realities and opportunities Baby Boomer men face as they retire. She offers inspiring stories of men from all walks of life who are redefining retirement - expanding their experiences, discovering new sides of themselves, and getting the most out of this phase of their life.
How many times a day do you ask yourself some version of, "Am I good enough?" In relationships, you do it all the time. Dr. Terri talks with Laurie Davis Edwards, founder of The Worthy One, a movement designed to empower women in their love lives. We'll explore the struggle with enoughness, where it comes from, why it shows up in some moments and not in others, and how to create a strong sense of worthiness in your life.
Many people have experienced betrayal and when its done by those closest to you, it is the most painful. Dr. Terri talks with Drs. Barry and Janae Weinhold about practical ways to identify and heal betrayals. They are the co-authors of the new book, Betrayal and The Path of The Heart, a book that looks at how to use betrayal experiences as opportunities for becoming more conscious. The book also describes how to spot predator types who use lies and cleaver manipulations to gain your trust.
Many people find it difficult to move their attention from the problems in their lives, in order to recognize their blessings. But, research reveals that ritual can provide the framework to evoke a spirit of gratitude and to connect with others. Dr. Terri talks with Dr. Peter Borten, a doctor of Asian medicine who helps people attain whole health of body and mind. He also is the co-author of the new book, Rituals for Transformation: 108 Day Journey to Your Sacred Life.
Do you know what women like in men? The good news for singles is that the majority of what women like in men can be learned or developed! Dr. Terri talks to dating coach and matchmaker Dan Silverman, who has taught both men and women how to date successfully for over ten years. It has been his life mission to help singles become more self-aware, self-confident, and more successful in their dating lives. He will share the most important aspects in what women like in men, how to identify when a woman is showing interest, and ways men succeed with women when dating.
Next to losing someone you love, divorce is one of the most traumatic of life's experiences. At the same time, it's the path out of a bad marriage, and ideally for all parties, to a happier, more fulfilling life. But it's not without complications. Dr. Terri talks to a leading expert in family law, attorney Henry Gornbein about his book, Divorce Demystified. Besides exploring legal, economic, and psychological issues, Gornbein focuses on the random, routine, and often overlooked details including the role of social media that can propel divorce proceedings into a roller-coaster ride gone off the tracks.
A national poll shows that 40 percent of people struggle to cope during time spent with family over the holidays, and 1 in 5 feel compelled to act like everything is fine, even when its not. Dr. Terri talks with psychologist Jonice Webb about Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and how to change the holiday experience with family. CEN occurs when a family doesn't notice or attend to the emotions of its members. It delivers a powerful message: "We don't care what you feel."
Are you confused about whether you want to stay married or need to divorce? Dr. Terri talks with lawyer and divorce coach, Cherie Morris, about the most important factors involved in this critical life decision. Cherie is also the author of the book, "Should I Stay or Should I Go," a book about how to evaluate your own life circumstances as you weigh your decision and what is involved when moving forward with a divorce.
Dating can be discouraging, exhausting and not always fun. But, the good news is that there are several ways to deal with dating burnout. Dr. Terri talks with Dr. Duana Welch, author of Love Factually, about the signs you might be burning out and how to deal with your thoughts and emotions so you can move forward and find the right person for you!
Do you notice yourself holding back during difficult conversations because you don't want to rock the boat? Or conversely, do you sometimes overreact or distance yourself when things get challenging? Dr. Terri talks with Nina Simonds, an internationally-recognized coach with 15+ years experience, coaching relationships of all kinds - couples, families and teams, about how to stay true to yourself without disconnecting from others. Whether you lead a team, coach and develop others, or want to strengthen the connection in your marriage - your ability to create the best moment to moment has a big impact on your interpersonal effectiveness and the quality of your interactions.
Currently, one in every sixty-eight children in the U.S. will be diagnosed with autism. More children will be diagnosed with autism each year than with AIDS, diabetes, and cancer combined. Dr. Terri talks with Ron Sandison about his experiences being a husband and father, as an individual living with autism. He is the author of the book, A Parent's Guide to Autism and has published articles in Autism Speaks, Autism Society of America, Autism File Magazine, the Detroit News, and numerous other outlets. He frequently speaks at colleges, conferences, autism centers and churches.
Step by step you can run or walk your way out of depression, stress, and anxiety. Dr. Terri talks with psychotherapist William Pullen about a powerful method for overcoming emotional pain. It's part of a radical new approach called Dynamic Running Therapy (DRT). Based on the most recent research on the body-mind connection, the benefits of regular exercise, and the wisdom of mindfulness, DRT is a proven effective therapy.
As mothers and daughters age, their relationship shifts and changes in complex and often demanding ways. Dr. Terri talks with Sandra Butler, co-author of the book, "It Never Ends." In the book, women speak openly about the satisfactions and sorrows of mothering middle-aged daughters and discuss the issues that continue to surface, the ongoing effects of the past on the present, and the varied and often invisible ways they continue mothering. Sandra Butler and her co-author Nan Fink Gefen draw from their own experiences as mothers, as well as interviews with over 75 older moms to gather insight and information.
Mothers and fathers of tomorrow's women have little idea what their daughters are up to sexually or how they feel about it. Dr. Terri talks with Peggy Orenstein, author of The New York Times best-selling book "Girls and Sex," about the new sexual landscape girls face, high school through college. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over seventy young women ages 15 - 20 as well as a wide range of experts, Orenstein paints a complex, sometimes disturbing, ultimately hopeful picture of today's young women when it comes to sex.
Roughly half of American children will witness their parents' marriage end in divorce. And yet, only a third of these kids will show negative reactions and adverse outcomes in the areas of education, emotional disorders and behavioral problems. Dr. Terri talks with Dr. Natasha Kendal about what factors contribute to children's successful adjustment to divorce, and what factors contribute to anxiety, depression, learning problems, aggression and other issues.
Your love for a person can grow over time and so can your appreciation for wine.
In addition, how to discover the right wine for you, your personality, and the situation is just like finding love with the right person. Dr. Terri talks with Michael Schafer, also known as "The Wine Counselor," about the many types of wines for different personalities, situations, moods, and food. Laugh, learn, and have fun as The Wine Counselor educates you about the similarities between relationships and wine.
When it comes to big life goals, most Americans point to two things: financial stability and a long-term relationship. While it seems like we're always chasing after love or money, according to the TD Bank Love & Money Survey, fifty eight percent stated it's harder to find true love than financial success. The survey also found that millennial couples who talk about money frequently are the happiest and the most common financial secret is a secret bank account. Dr. Terri and Jason Thacker, Head of U.S. Consumer Deposits and Payments at TD Bank, discuss the top results from TD Bank's Love & Money survey, and the best tips on how to navigate financial conversations whether its with a lifelong partner or deciding whether to split the bill on a first date.
Do you find yourself rummaging through your closet trying to determine what to wear for that first date? A lot of people often feel unprepared, rushed or unsure about how to dress for success and make the best first date impression. Dr. Terri talks to Kimberly Seltzer, an image expert, dating coach, and matchmaker. She has helped hundreds of people find lasting love and connection using her unique "confidence makeover" process. Using an outside-in approach, Kim has changed hundreds of lives by changing their style, emotional and social intelligence using her signature formula, "The Charisma Quotient."
Are you looking for a fulfilling relationship, happiness in your life, and inner peace?
It all starts with you. Learn to F.L.Y. - First Love Yourself and then the rest will follow. Dr. Terri talks to Lisa Lieberman-Wang, a relationship and emotional breakthrough expert, who developed FINE to FAB 25 years ago in order to fill a need in her own life. She will share the 7 Secrets to FAB and you'll discover how easy it is for you to change your habits and beliefs that you have been holding on to for years.
About 22 million parents battle parental alienation in the US alone. These parents are silenced by the law, compromised, and treated as the lesser parent. Yet, children need access to all of their loving parents and extended families. Dr. Terri talks to Michelle Darné, author of Parent Deleted, a heartbreaking story about how parents can be alienated from their children. It is a gripping tale of one non-biological, lesbian mother's fight for her children.
Alarming results show that more than two-thirds of American workers are not engaged in their jobs. A boss’s poor leadership skills directly impact employees' attitudes towards their work and their allegiance to an organization. Dr. Terri talks to Vicky Oliver, a leading career development expert and the multi-bestselling author of five career books, including Bad Bosses, Crazy Coworkers & Other Office Idiots. Oliver shares tips and strategies on how to become the boss people would love to work for.
As teenagers become independent, they begin to spend more time away from you, their parent. But they still need a strong relationship with you to feel safe and secure as they meet the challenges of adolescence and life. Dr. Terri talks to Carolyn Hidalgo, about practices to emotionally connect with your teens, so they will confide in you and bring up sensitive issues without any begging on your part. Carolyn is a certified life coach with a vision of living judgment-free, and her unique practices allow clients to overcome guilt or shame, find forgiveness, and navigate conflict for positive lasting relationships.
Whether you're questioning the relationship you're in, or sure it needs to end, today's program is for you. Dr. Terri talks to Dr. Duana Welch, author of Love Factually, a book that takes men and women through every stage of dating, from before they meet until they commit. Dr. Terri and Dr. Duana discuss the signs it's time to end a relationship, the mechanics of a breakup, and whether you can still be friends afterwards.
Life is all about relationships. But every relationship begins with YOU. Do you really understand why you think and behave as you do in relationships? Dr. Terri talks to Jeremy Daniel, Vice President of Training and the Lead Trainer for Color Code International, about the power of truly knowing yourself, what motivates you, and how you impact the relationships in your life. The Color Code is a revolutionary personality test, which assesses your general way of interacting with those around you. Once you learn about your "color code," you will be able to make sense and understand the relationships in your life.
Do you ever feel powerless in a business meeting simply because you're a woman? You walk in with confidence, but then you're not taken seriously by your male colleagues or are shut down by opposing comments or interruptions? Dr. Terri talks with career expert Marja Norris about how you, as a woman, can empower yourself in the workplace. Marja has successfully navigated the male-dominated business world and is passionate about coaching women on how to be taken seriously, be heard, and get what they want at work.
When you master the power of body language and other non-verbal cues, you can communicate with greater confidence and improve every relationship in your life. You also gain a deeper understanding of how people perceive you. Dr. Terri talks with certified body language trainer and communications expert Lisa Mitchell, "The People Reader," about how to decode the non-verbal messages that others are sending you AND how to use the power of body language to enrich your relationships.
Dealing with change is definitely stressful. No matter what others have you believe, even in wonderful times like having a baby or getting a better job, change is about giving up what’s known and adjusting to the new. Dr. Terri talks with therapist Debra Orbuch Grayson (MS, LCMFT), about how to get better at coping with change and transition. Change isn't easy but there are ways to deal with it that can make it feel less scary and stressful.
Are you familiar with the phrase, "You're never too old to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right?" But is it actually true? Is it possible to meet the love of your life when you're in your 50's, 60's, 70's and beyond? Absolutely yes! Dr. Terri talks with Patricia Lorenz, who found her love in midlife, where she might otherwise not have looked. She also shares her personal, interesting, and funny stories that tell a lesson for all, in her new book, "57 Steps to Paradise: Finding Love in Midlife and Beyond."
You think 60,000–70,000 thoughts a day, and sadly, it’s the negative ones you tend to hear the loudest. Negative thoughts damage your life and happiness: they create behaviors that railroad the best of intentions. Dr. Terri talks with Ora Nadrich, a certified life coach and mindfulness meditation teacher, who says that you simply can't lead a happy and fulfilled life if your inner dialogue is conflicted or causing you to suffer. She has created an incredibly easy to follow method to get rid of negative thoughts, taking away all their power over you. It will work for anyone and starts by realizing that you are in control over your own thoughts, and you get to decide who stays.
What really happens in your brain when you fall in love? And when you're in love, what changes in your neurotransmitters cause you to feel obsessed or become "love blind" about your partner? Dr. Terri talks with Dawn Maslar (MS), author, speaker, adjunct biology professor and researcher in the science of love. For the past decade, she has been using her cutting-edge research to describe how the brain works when two people first meet, start to date, fall in love, and then move on to a more passionate, lifelong love. Her latest endeavor is called the Devotion Test, an instant saliva test that can show love and commitment in men. Most people love falling in love, but after this program, you might not look at falling in love the same way again.
When it comes to romance and dating, the rules and strategies have changed in the past decade. Professional matchmakers are experts in the field of helping people find love and have become a very successful way to meet someone who is compatible. Dr. Terri talks with Kelli Fisher and Tana Gilmore, The Matchmaking DUO, who believe that countless women and men are facing the dilemma of their education and careers taking off, but their personal life has left them lonely and unfulfilled. They argue that discovering long-term love is an intentional and hands-on undertaking.
The Matchmaking DUO are Certified Life/Relationship Coaches, Certified Matchmakers, national speakers, and authors of the critically acclaimed book, “Relationship DUOvers.” Together, they own Fisher Gilmore Matchmaking (FGM), Inc., an agency which specializes in helping women of power balance their career, personal, and love life by teaching how to effectively blend all three.
Studies show that more than forty million Americans are turning to the internet to find love. About half of all people who meet online go out on a face-to-face date, and about 20% of online daters have turned online dates into a long-term relationship or marriage. Dr. Terri talks with Michelle G. about strategies to be successful at online dating and techniques to go from online to offline dating. Michelle is a certified dating and relationship specialist, author, speaker, and CEO of MG International, a digital matchmaking service that uses the power of online dating to help people find meaningful and long lasting relationships. She is also the author of the book Relationship SOS: Seven Lifelines to Rescue Your Emotional Intimacy Now.
Most of us have experienced that crazy, out of control feeling at the beginning of a new romance. You know – your heart races, you feel a rush of excitement, and you can’t get anything done because you’re constantly thinking about the other person. But ask anyone to label that urgent longing and yearning, and you’ll get as many different responses as you will people. In this program, Dr. Terri discusses the many complexities to love and how you know whether the passion and butterflies in your stomach are signs of romantic love or simply lust. Also, she'll share some science-based strategies to reignite that lustful desire in a long-term relationship.
According to statistics in the US, suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among youth ages 10 - 24. In a culture where there is a growing crisis of teen depression, addiction, and suicide, how can parents, schools, and community organizations get in front of the problem and save lives? Dr. Terri talks with Sandy Fowler, co-founder of DASIUM, an organization of people helping individuals, parents, and schools wake up to, and face the challenges of teen and young adult depression, addiction, and suicide. At DASIUM, they're passionate about sharing the unspoken truth and believe that the combination of being proactive in teaching healthy coping strategies, early intervention and getting quality care for kids in crisis is the answer.
If you want to go the distance with your partner or learn why your previous relationships have failed, you need to understand who you are “in love.” Dr. Terri talks with Fiachra “Figs” O’Sullivan, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who believes that you can rewire your brain to love differently (better!), to achieve healthier and more satisfying relationships. Figs helps couples learn why they act the way they do in love and conflict, and how to get out of conflict by being vulnerable and open with each other. He also developed an online program Empathi.com to help you feel more connected in your relationship, stop fighting, start growing, and keep loving.
Staying positive in a negative world is a challenge, but one that Lisa Jesswein has faced countless times as a two-time kidney transplant recipient, cancer survivor, divorcee and intuitive reader. Lisa has been an inspirational speaker since the age of 14 when she was asked by medical staff to speak on organ donation at the state capitol. Dr. Terri talks with Lisa Jesswein about her dating experiences, how to overcome fears and navigate setbacks, and how to embrace the “power of you!”
In May, 2017 The Love Doctor was asked to join the Empower Radio family. Those radio programs can be downloaded above. Before that date, she recorded entertaining and informative podcasts about relationships and love. Check out her earlier podcasts here.